“Bring consent out of the bedroom. I think part of the reason we have trouble drawing the line “it’s not okay to force someone into sexual activity” is that in many ways, forcing people to do things is part of our culture in general. Cut that shit out of your life. If someone doesn’t want to go to a party, try a new food, get up and dance, make small talk at the lunchtable—that’s their right. Stop the “aww c’mon” and “just this once” and the games where you playfully force someone to play along. Accept that no means no—all the time.”

simperingcreatures:

Carl Wittman. Refugees from Amerika: A Gay Manifesto. 1969. Read as PDF

Inspiration for the next writing project.

“Essayists like to examine — or, to use an essayist’s favorite term, consider — topics from various perspectives. To consider is not necessarily to conclude; the essayist delights in a suspension of judgment and even an inconsistency that usually annoys the ‘so what’s your point?’ reader.”
— Robert Atwan (via brainpickings)
“We should not try to define ‘the humanities’ by asking what the humanities departments share which distinguishes them from the rest of the university. The interesting dividing line is, instead, one that cuts across departments and disciplinary matrices. It divides people busy conforming to well-understood criteria for making contributions to knowledge from people trying to expand their own moral imaginations. These latter people read books in order to enlarge their sense of what is possible and important—either for themselves as individuals or for their society…If one asks what these good people [in the second group] do, what social function they perform neither ‘teaching’ nor ‘research’ is a very good answer. Their idea of teaching - or at least of the sort of teaching they hope to do - is not exactly the communication of knowledge, but more like stirring the kids up…So the real social function of the humanistic intellectuals is to instill doubts in the students about the students’ own self-images, and about the society to which they belong. These people are the teachers who help ensure that the moral consciousness of each new generation is slightly different from that of the previous generation…But when it comes to the rhetoric of public support for higher education, we do not talk much about this social function. We cannot tell boards of trustees, government commissions, and the like, that our function is to stir things up, to make our society feel guilty, to keep it off balance. We cannot say that taxpayers employ us to make sure that their children will think differently than they do. Somewhere, deep down, everybody - even the average taxpayer - knows that this is one of the things colleges and universities are for. But nobody can afford to make this fully explicit and public.”
— Richard Rorty, Philosophy and Social Hope
“The adverb is not your friend.”
“To close read is to linger, to dally, to take pleasure in tarrying, and to hold out that these activities can allow us to look both hard and askance at the norm.”
— Elizabeth Freeman
“One finds that love is not a state, a feeling, a disposition, but an exchange, uneven, fraught with history, with ghosts, with longings that are more or less legible to those who try to see one another with their own faulty vision.”
— Judith Butler